There's the fix! Cut and Paste and make the world better. I didn't (I never do) I don't like cut and paste fixes.
It's not something I am proud of—to have done nothing. It's a behavior that I realize I need to confront—and since I have seen some support for the bully—I am afraid, if I stand up and say something, I am not going to even get Cut and Paste support.
It's so much easier to do nothing (its not) It's so much easier to ignore that some behaviors are bullying—Let's just pretend its FUN instead—Let's plan a road trip to have some fun (at the expence of others).
The bully (Ms Alpha dog of the group) suggested just that--a Road Trip—To invade an other groups space and to intimate them. She KNOWS SHE CAN- She knows she is bigger (not really, she is not a big person) strong, faster and all over, superior.
Then, the recount of the last time this was done—again the gleeful face, the joyfull affect--how proud she was of her behavior!
Really-- a group of grown women, seeking out to confront another group of grown women to harrase them and intimidate them—in a word, to bully them! So many seconded the idea! Ms Alfpha Dog makes it sound like fun!
I sat frozen—I watch this display and said nothing. Well, of course, she has bullied me--(and no one came to my defence) and yeah, I am sort of afraid of confronting her.
And there is the problem. It's so easy to cut and paste a nice sentiment and think “There, I've done my piece! I have done MY part to end bullying”
And it is easier (I know!), so much easier to confront a single stranger acting a bully. I've done that.
But in a friendly (well supposedly friendly—no wait, not just friendly, but REALLY friends!) group, it's so much harder to stand up, and call out a bully.
I have resolved that I will confront her—should Ms Alpha Dog make the suggestion again and attempt to firm up the details—I will stand up and call her out for behavior.